Relationships: INTP

Thursday, May 22, 2014 2 Comments A+ a-

G'morning, everyone! Sitting in the coffee shop, trying to keep warm (it's like the Arctic in here!) with a pot of cinnamon-orange tea. My to-do list is crammed, but it's been a long time since I've posted out here. I'm waaaaaay overdue on a relationship article. update. I'm back in the GAMBIT game. My editor is working with me on a chapter-a-week plan, and we probably won't set a release date until we get close to the finish line. Which is fine, because I suck at rushing things, lol. My inner perfectionist demands a slow, methodical approach to avoid errors. Anyone relate?

And my household is in a huge state of transition. Gah! Every time I turn around, something is changing or clamoring for attention. Daughter getting a full-time job. Need a new/used car that we can't afford. Son having legal trouble (that one's really stressing me out). Looking for a new respite worker. Searching for group homes. Sigh. Change is a good thing...when it doesn't come at you from a dozen directions at once. The INFJ has a keen ability for focusing on one thing at a time. It's one of our strengths. Choosing which one to focus on is the hard part. :)

This morning, though, I'm snuggling into my blanket (yes, I carry a blanket around for climate control), pouring some more tea, and diving into the next personality type: the INTP.

The INTP, also referred to as the Thinker or the Engineer, is a cerebral type who values logic and intelligence. Brilliant thinkers, they often live inside their heads, generating theories and analyzing patterns. Let's look at some of their strengths and weaknesses (from Personality Page and my Mass Match hard copy):

  • Generally laid-back and easygoing
  • Want to make sense of concepts and the world
  • Great powers of concentration
  • Richly imaginative and creative
  • Not threatened by conflict or criticism
  • Generates lots of ideas, but doesn't always follow through
  • May be seen as aloof or absent-minded
  • Not naturally in tune with others' feelings
  • Not naturally good at expressing their own feelings and emotions

The INTP functional stack:
  • Dominant: Introverted Thinking
  • Auxiliary: Extraverted Intuition
  • Tertiary: Introverted Sensing
  • Inferior: Extraverted Feeling

Personality Page tells us that "the INTP's natural partner is the ENTJ, or the ESTJ. The INTP's dominant function of Introverted Thinking is best matched with a partner whose personality is dominated by Extraverted Thinking. The INTP/ENTJ match is ideal, because these types shared Intuition as a common way of perceiving the world, but INTP/ESTJ is also a good match."

And Mass Match lines it up this way:
  • Best: ENTP, INTP, INTJ
  • Least Likely: ESFJ, ISFJ, ISTP, ESFP, ISFP

So what does this mean for a friend/lover relationship between an INFJ and an INTP?

Let's look at the positives. The INTP is a brilliant thinker who lives in the realm of possibilities--something the INFJ is familiar with and may find inspiring. Not being easily threatened by conflict or criticism means the INTP could probably handle our intense, perfectionist side without cringing or walking away. It seems like they also have a good balance of logic and creativity, like the INFJ, so we'd get along well in that respect.

Coming from the other direction, I can see where the INTP's aloofness might cause a rift. An INFJ wants to connect, sometimes on a very deep level. We're dreamers, too, so if both types are "in their heads" a lot, connecting might be difficult. Also, if an INTP approaches ideas logically and without much emotion, he/she may have trouble appreciating our strong intuition and gut feelings, which aren't always based on logic or facts.

Still, just from looking at the data and descriptions, I think this could work out nicely. Especially if both parties have balanced functions. Personally, I could use some INTPs in my life to feed me their brilliant ideas. The INFJ has a constant desire for knowledge and personal growth. Plant a seed in our minds, and we'll superpower that into something awesome.

More to come, guys. There's a lot on the plate, but the majority of it is good--even the things hanging off and dripping onto the table, lol.

Take care and keep on dreaming!

Image Credit: Simpsons INTP, Rule the World


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May 29, 2014 at 5:03 PM delete

Ah yes! I work on writing with an INTP. We share ideas. She hates building up the world of her characters because it is never perfect enough and she wants it to be hard sci-fi (so, everything needs to make sense with science we currently know, which of course makes futuristic fiction difficult). Therefore, she just takes her characters and puts them in my world, and we role play. Which is great, because it develops my world very nicely. She points out details and things, like "what does he do all day" or, "where does he get milk from if there are no farms or cities" XD I would probably have come across these details eventually, but much slower, because honestly, I hadn't even been working on the character I'm currently playing with. Which is kind of a major part of the story, so this is great. And he's more fun than I realized. She can be pretty mean with feelings so this does not occur without the occasional strife, and she feels like she has to know irrelevant details sometimes, but overall it works out pretty well.

April 13, 2017 at 11:46 PM delete

Emotion? If you engage an INTP in their favorite intellectual passion you will see emotion. They will froth at the mouth with enthusiasum.