Relationships: ENFP

Sunday, January 12, 2014 4 Comments A+ a-

Hi, guys! Greetings from the cold, snowy Midwest!

Our thermometer is hovering around 36 at the moment, which feels balmy compared to last week. The morning of our official 'snowpocalypse' clocked in at -13, with a wind chill that pushed it down to -37. The wind came screaming out of north, drifting the endless snowfall into huge piles in some places, while scouring other surfaces down to nothing. It was crazy. Seriously, there ought to be a law against weather that severe.

But we were prepped. Stocked pantry, stacks of firewood, fully charged laptops and iPods. My hubby kept the fire going, and we never did lose power as we sometimes do in a bad snow or ice storm. The biggest issue around here was cabin fever. After several days of being stuck inside together, we all started going a little stir crazy. :)

Wintry woes aside, where are we at with our relationship series? Oh, yes...we've come to one I've been looking forward to. It's a type rumored to get along famously with the INFJ. Drum roll, please, as we take a look at the ENFP.

Don't let the cartoon sketch fool you. The ENFP, also known as the Advocate or Inspirer, is a sensitive, alert individual with a broad range of talents. They love people and have excellent interpersonal skills. Let's look at a list of their strengths and weaknesses (according to Personality Page and my Mass Match hard copy):
  • Love to talk about what's going on in their lives
  • Excellent people skills
  • Talented in many areas
  • Excited about possibilities
  • Motivational and inspiring
  • Strong intuition that helps them bring out the best in others
  • Strive for win/win situations
  • Unusually loyal and dedicated
  • Can be a little smothering
  • Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism
  • Don't like dealing with the mundane details of everyday life
  • May become easily bored 
  • Tendency to make errors in judgment (due to strong perceiving function)

The ENFP functional stack:
  • Dominant: Extraverted Intuition 
  • Auxiliary: Introverted Feeling
  • Tertiary: Extraverted Thinking
  • Inferior: Introverted Sensing

Personality Page indicates that the "ENFP's natural partner is the INTJ, or the INFJ. ENFP's dominant function of Extraverted Intuition is best matched with a partner whose dominant function is Introverted Intuition."

And my Mass Match hard copy lays it out like this:
  • Least Likely: ENTJ, ENTP, INTJ, INTP, ESFP, ISFP

So what does this mean for a friend/lover relationship between an INFJ and an ENFP?

According to Personality Page, the INFJ is one of the best matches for an ENFP due to our opposite dominant Intuition functions. I agree that opposing Intuition functions balance each other well. Two strong intuitives lend authenticity and trust to a relationship. Both types live in a world of ideas and possibilities, which I think would make for a very creative, inspirational combination. The ENFP brings enthusiasm and fun to the table, but they also strive for peace. This suits the INFJ well, as we enjoy positive influences without conflict.

My primary concern for this type of combo would be the ENFP's tendency to become bored. They thrive on ideas and helping others, but don't like getting bogged down in the little details of life. In my opinion, an ENFP needs a well-developed INFJ who can jump on the bandwagon, so to speak. Someone supportive and equally idealistic who can help with the mundane and keep the ENFP focused on seeing things through. I think this would make for a powerful, passionate couple with the energy and influence to do much good in the world!

In doing some research for this post, I stumbled across an interesting blog by an ENFP. The author makes a good point in that while he is predominantly an ENFP at work, he's more of an INFP at home. Another good reminder that we're all a functional mix. We may feel more at home in one type, but we're certainly capable of using, training, and reacting with our other functions as well.

Looks like I have around five more types to do before wrapping up this series. Now that the bulk of my Gambit editing is done, I should have a little more free time for blogging. You wouldn't believe (or maybe you would) the time and energy that goes into getting a manuscript ready for publication! The marketing stuff is pretty wild, too...the social media aspect alone has been overwhelming.

But it's an exciting ride, folks, and I hope to take all of you along on this journey. In the meantime, may your coffee mugs be warm and your hearts smiling. :)

Take care,

Image Credit: Simpsons ENFP, Keep Up


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July 26, 2014 at 10:34 AM delete

Hi wanted to share this Entp's view on Enfp's in relationships with Infj's. I also have issues with the easy boredom of enfp's however we go through ideas the way they go through ideas and experiences so in a way our internal thinking needs the same stimulation as they external thinking needs experiences. My only problem with some enfp's I know is their subjugation of logic for values and harmony so I think like the the video highlights it would work great with an infj if you have the same values as the enfp. Also, we do need their passion lol, I think I would love a borderline thinker/feeler an ENT/FP.
A question on the side, do you need a soulful connection in the sense that you would wish for cognitive understanding?
Hallstrigity youtube has this interesting video and just in case the playlist kicks in there is the name of the video:
Response to ENfp's and dating/love relationships combinations - unsolicited :)

February 3, 2016 at 11:48 AM delete

ENFP is the campaigner and INFJ is the advocate...

May 9, 2016 at 12:39 AM delete

I'm definitely an ENFP and I think my boyfriend is and INFJ (or close). And wow, our connection is the kind you only see in movies. But more importantly, we share the same values, we think about the other person before ourselves, and we have similar interests.

September 16, 2017 at 5:21 PM delete

ENFP here, my best friend is an ENTJ. I don't know how I would react if he was a girl but we balance each other's personalities and make a great debate duo.