Relationships: ISTP

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Brrr! A chilly morning here in east-central Illinois! Am keeping the coffee mug close, more to warm my icy fingers than anything else :-)

Next up in our relationship series is the ISTP, also known as the Mechanic or the Craftsman. This personality type, from what I'm seeing, is fearless and capable. They appear to be adventuresome and are drawn to physically engaging activities. The image below (spelling errors aside) gives a nice summary:


Here's a list of strengths/weaknesses of the ISTP personality type (from Personality Page and Mass Match):
  • Self-confident
  • Optimistic and fun to be with
  • Good listeners
  • Compelling drive to understand how things work
  • Logical, realistic
  • Natural problem-solvers
  • Fearless, not threatened by conflict or criticism
  • Practical and realistic
  • Live entirely in the present
  • Difficulty with long-term commitments
  • Difficulty expressing feelings/emotions
  • Need lots of personal space
  • Overly private and can hold themselves back
  • Can be insensitive and not tuned in to how others are feeling
  • Thrive on action and excitement, which they seek out and sometimes stir up

The MBTI functional breakdown:
  • Dominant: Introverted Thinking
  • Auxiliary: Extraverted Sensing
  • Tertiary: Introverted Intuition
  • Inferior: Extraverted Feeling

Now Personality Page feels that an ISTP would be best matched up with an opposing dominant (Extraverted Thinking):


Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, the ISTP's natural partner is the ESTJ, or the ENTJ. ISTP's dominant function of Introverted Thinking is best matched with a partner whose personality is dominated by Extraverted Thinking. The ISTP/ESTJ combination is ideal, because both types share the Sensing preference for perceiving the world, but ISTP/ENTJ is also a good combination.

Mass Match lays it out like this:
  • Best: ESTJ, ISTJ, ENTJ, ESTP
  • Possible: ESFJ, ISFP, INTJ, ISFJ
  • Least Likely: ISTP, ESFP, ENTP, INTP, ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP

So what does this mean for a friend/lover relationship between an INFJ and an ISTP?

Let's line up the good and the bad here. On the PRO side, the ISTP is an introvert. They value their alone time and would appreciate the INFJ's need for space as well. They also have an optimist viewpoint and are fun to be with--which I think would provide amazing inspiration and encouragement for our creative side. The ISTP would probably be a "sensory feast" for us as well, which we can enjoy (in small doses). They are practical and like to know how things work--the INFJ would value this, as we have a huge capacity for learning and knowledge.

The CONs seem to lie with the ISTP's desire for "here and now" living. They are Han Solo types who love action and can be very moment-to-moment individuals, disliking any kind of planning or long-term commitment. The INFJ, who tends to view the big picture and focus on future possibilities, might have trouble dealing with someone whose primary focus is entirely in the present. We also tend to avoid the high-sensory events the ISTP craves. With us, a little Se goes a long way.


Overall, I'm thinking a relationship with one of these people would be very intense and exciting. As an INFJ, I could handle that for about...oh, let's say, a couple of hours. Of course, that's just me. I do occasionally like to be around exciting people doing exciting things. For really close relationships, I prefer types with more focus on the future and who will encourage my creativity and deep thinking.

Having looked at two "Sensory" types now, I feel the need to bring up the fact that INFJs are often warned to be careful pairing up with sensory types, especially those with perceptive judging. Here's what Personality Junkie has to say about this:


Generally speaking, INFJs are ill-matched with Sensing types. As dominant Intuitives, INFJs live in a world of abstractions mediated by concepts and language. Since S types, especially SP types (ESTPs, ESFPs, ISTPs, ISFPs), prefer to relate through concrete action or activities, INFJs may struggle to find a common N denominator. While ISTJs and ISFJs can be somewhat more abstract in their ideation, INFJs may struggle with their deference to certain traditions or conventions.

Would I automatically condemn an ISTP/INFJ relationship to failure? Nope--absolutely not! The MBTI types provide a guide, but they're not a crystal ball for predicting the successful outcome of a relationship. All relationships require work, understanding, patience, and commitment. This series is simply meant to provide knowledge and insight into different types and how they function.

That being said, I'm headed off to indulge in some good old-fashioned INFJ creative writing. Everyone have a wonderful and safe Memorial Day weekend--take care and be good!!

Always,
M.

Image Credit: Simpsons ISTP, Han Solo


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Colin Machan
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May 26, 2013 at 2:55 AM delete

My son is an ISTP. And will probably love the Star Wars reference. Will show him the next time I see him. He took off yesterday afternoon on the spur of the moment and haven't seen him since! :)

C

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Anonymous
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May 26, 2013 at 11:37 PM delete

Yeah, that whole "lack of planning" thing...definitely a deal breaker. I mean, for heaven's sake, do deviate from the plan...but to start without one? That's just crazy! (he wrote, tongue firmly in cheek.)

Love these posts. Looking forward to the one on ENFPs (my favorite people for reasons even I don't fully comprehend).

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Meridian
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June 2, 2013 at 11:28 AM delete

Lol...totally made me laugh...

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Meridian
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June 2, 2013 at 11:31 AM delete

Thanks! And ENFPs are natural partners for us, which is probably why you're drawn to them!

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November 5, 2013 at 10:23 AM delete

I'm an infj but i wouldn't mind forgoing plan on the spur of spontaneity. But then, i had a different background while growing up in which nothing was planned and so i'm quite adaptable and easy-going on this. I do plan for events that could be life-altering, but otherwise i'm good for following the flows of others.

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November 5, 2013 at 10:28 AM delete

I am an INFJ, I have been talking to an ISTP for some time, and am very intrigued by her. The way of thinking, getting things done, everything is on a different and fun level, and brings out a part of me that I usually keep hidden, a sweeter and more empathetic side that I am usually uncomfortable to express.
As for the spontaneity of the relationship: My past in itself is rather dark, and nothing was every truly planned. Because of that, I have an adaptability on such things, and actually rather enjoy doing things wildly if following the ideas of others. I still have strong opinions over some things, and plan for life-altering things, but the person I talk to is incredibly rational and understanding, and thinks these things through before doing them.
At the same time, though I hear many people say this isn't true, the ISTP whom I have this interest in is actually very emotional and on the same level as myself.
So I think we get along rather well. We've been talking for months, also.

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Anonymous
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May 31, 2014 at 6:11 AM delete

I'm an INFJ and my other half is an ISTP and it's the best! Bringing out my creative side is something that really shines through and I need his understanding to help me turn my theories / concepts / abstract thoughts into something concrete so I don't always forget what I've achieved.

We've been together years now but the excitement doesn't fade! The only bugbear is the planning thing but I'm not very good at planning stuff with other people anyway. Either they do it all or I do it all and if it goes wrong when someone else does it then that's their problem not mine. I too grew up surrounded by non planners and after getting hurt constantly by this I had to step back and become separate from those situations.

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Anonymous
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July 7, 2014 at 1:11 PM delete

I am on the cusp of moving in with an ISTP. We have been dating for a little over a year and our biggest issue so far seems to be miscommunications that start with my difficulty in articulating needs/wants, followed by his inaccurate assumption that I am being insincere. For me, it is a new adventure to be with someone who really listens, genuinely cares, and can handle my uncensored thoughts and emotions. I am excited at the prospect of being less inhibited.

I am worried about the planning thing. I like your solution of doing it yourself and not stressing about including him with the actual planning; but I'm assuming you have figured out a way to incorporate him into the plans. Is there any trick to that? I get stressed when I feel like I am doing everything and getting no help. So, for example, I asked him to be in charge of renting the U-Haul. I know he doesn't intend to rent it in advance, and in our area, at the time we are moving, that is a risky choice. Also, it makes no sense to me. We know we will need it. We know when we will need it. Why wait to rent it? There's a risk that no trucks will be available or that we will get screwed on the price by waiting until the last moment. Maybe I just assigned the wrong part of the plan to him. Maybe I'm not playing to his strengths.
I guess I don't want to feel like I'm mothering him, constantly nagging or reminding him to do things. How can I be a planner and utilize his strengths in a way that feels more like partners?

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Anonymous
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April 21, 2015 at 8:43 PM delete

INFJ + ISTP has its positive side but also its struggles. INFJ female married to ISTP husband for 25+ years. He has difficulty empathizing with people and instead focuses only on exciting opportunities and having fun. This can be awesome, don't get me wrong, there is lots of love but equal struggles. You start to feel perpetually misunderstood, and there isn't a lot of hope for improvement when it is a lack of perceptivity and empathy that is at the core of communication difficulties. This is a frustrating combination. Though I'm in it for life, I would highly recommend any INFJs starting out to stick with the N types - you'll find you have MUCH more in common, particularly when raising children together

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Anonymous
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July 18, 2015 at 10:08 AM delete

Chiming in late to the conversation, I just looked this post up after reading today's post (7/18/15) and was curious to find out about the INFJ/ISTP relationship, since this is what my husband and I are (I'm the INFJ). I'm happy to say that we celebrated our 16th anniversary yesterday, and are happier together than ever! Still, it has been so helpful learning about each other along the way and most of all, COMMUNICATING and SHARING this information with each other! :) We know each other's MBTIs, love languages, and background/upbringing quirks that have led us to be who we are as adults. For example, my husband had several tragedies growing up and his mom always stressed caution above everything, so he is more cynical than optimistic, and his "wild side" is tempered by this ingrained proclivity to err on the side of too careful.

Our relationship works well because no matter what friction comes up due to our different personalities, we have two anchors: common faith and common sense of humor. I truly believe these have been the key to working through any and every problem we have. Yes, I still drive him crazy because I need at least a 5-minute heads up before doing something "spontaneous." LOL. And he drives me crazy for bringing up some random, immediate idea or change in plans that I need some time to mentally process before being able to get excited about. We don't fight often, but when we do we fight hard because we are both so dang stubborn, but our goal in the fight is always to work through the issue and get to a resolution.

We have two wonderful daughters and parenting them together is interesting, as we both have very different techniques... However I am a stay-at-home-mom so I manage most of that, which is fine (having kids does require a lot of planning!). But they love him because he's fun, in the moment, and plays with them--whereas I am always a few steps ahead thinking about the next thing.

One example of the "spontaneous/planner" conflict is when I was getting ready to take my kids to swim lessons one morning. I went every day that week with a book and enjoyed a little half-hour of reading time. So that particular morning, I was looking forward to bringing a cup of coffee (it was a little cool that week) and my book and reading quietly by myself. Now my husband has been working from home the last few years (that's another post for another day, LOL--took me about 6 months to adjust to that!!), so he was around the house as we were getting ready. Just as we were about to walk out the door, he starts walking to the door with us and says, "I think I'll join you today!" So being an INFJ, my first reaction was anger and disappointment--I had been looking forward to my book! Waaa! He's messing up my plans! But I paused, then reminded myself of a few things: My husband is more important than my book. He wants to spend time with me. I like spending time with him, so this is a good thing. My husband wants to watch his kids' swim lessons. This, too, is a good thing--he is a great father. But while I was processing this all in my head, my husband read my face and said, "Ummm, you look disappointed." I had to explain to him that I was just mentally readjusting my plans/expectations, and then I could shift gears to being happy about him coming. Luckily he knows me well enough to understand this now, and we had a great morning. :)

So in short--there are definitely points of friction with our two MBTIs, but with humor and grace, we have been able not merely to "make it work" but to thrive as a couple and as parents. We may be a unique example but I am convinced no one else could be a more perfect match for me, and vice-versa! Good luck to any other INFJ/ISTP couples out there, and my best advice is to learn and name your differences to each other, it will help you understand the other better and smooth out conflicts faster (or avoid them all together).

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Anonymous
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July 24, 2015 at 12:04 PM delete

I'm an INFJ, and I've just found out that I'm married to an ISTP (he didn't take the test, I figured this out based on what I've observed of his habits, actions, and reactions). In September we will have been married for a year. I love him and most of the time we get along great, but there are times where I want to hand him the car keys and shove him out the door for a few hours so I can have some peace and quiet and do what I want to do, and other times I need him close, just to hold me for a few minutes (particularly when I'm feeling vulnerable) and he's nowhere to be found, which I of course take personally (even though I know I shouldn't) and it makes me feel worse.

I realize I need to be patient and I try, but I think the underlying reason it makes me so upset is any time I offer him insight into why I need what I do, he has no interest in it. He thinks love languages, personality types, and psychology in general is a stupid bunch of nonsense and I don't know how else to go about giving him basics to build on. It's frustrating and it hurts, even though I know intellectually it's not personal.

I would appreciate some advice if you have any, however I won't be upset if you don't respond.

Thanks. :)

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Anonymous
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July 27, 2015 at 11:10 PM delete

Hi,

I'm an INFJ woman who has been in a relationship with and ISTP man for several years. For various reasons, we do not live together - and that's probably just as well, at least for now. We are both "mature" in years :) I think this helps, as I'm not sure I would have wanted or been able to handle a relationship with this sort of man in my 20's, 30's or even 40's. I would probably have perceived him to be too emotionally unavailable, and he may have perceived me to be too "sensitive". (Heck, It think ISTP's think EVERYONE is too sensitive....but I digress.)

While there is lots to appreciate about my ISTP guy (a hands on, can-do approach to the bigger, messier household tasks that I don't like or cannot do on my own; a good sense of humour; a mostly unflappable nature and steadiness that helps ground me), the things I struggle with in the relationship involve the emotional connection and support that are so important to me. It can sometimes feel quite lonely and invalidating to be with him, because if something is not deemed to be logical to my ISTP partner, no matter how many different ways or times I try to explain it, and not matter how upset I am, I simply won't reach him, and he appears to dismiss it. Sometimes I can eventually get through. Other times I decide that it is an opportunity for me to practice being more objective and try not to take things personally. I'm also learning to adjust my expectations, since it's the gap between expectations and reality that often seem to cause distress. I'm not saying that this is easy, just that it's been an opportunity for me to learn and grow. Nor would I suggest making expectations so low that you end up having none of your needs met and/or lose your sense of self completely.

So, as for offering you advice and support, a couple of suggestions are to keep trying different approaches to making your needs known, try to temper your emotions (yes, I know this can be a challenge for us INFJ's) so that it is easier for him to hear you out. One thing I sometimes do is remind my guy that better communication (especially attempts to really hear and understand me!) lead to improved intimacy.....and better intimacy means hotter sex. I figure that might be the kind of language my ISTP fella would "get" more quickly and easily ;)

In the end though, you have a right to be and feel heard in your relationship. I know how it hurts to feel dismissed and invalidated, as struggle with these feelings too.

Best of luck to you. I hope you can somehow get through to your husband that the kind of emotional connection you crave and the natural abilities you have in leading this process will really enrich your relationship.

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Anonymous
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July 27, 2015 at 11:28 PM delete

I just thought of one more thing: How about this for a conversation starter: gently ask him what it was about you that attracted him to you in the first place. I bet there will be something in there that you can build on. I'm thinking/hoping that some of what he comes up with will include your compassionate and intuitive nature - the strengths you have that he probably mostly lacks. And, I have to wonder why, if he claims to be so down on psychology and the like, he chose you for a partner? It's hard to explain what I'm getting at here (perhaps I'm having a typical INFJ struggle to put complex things into words), but his ISTP logic may be a bit flawed if he claims to reject psychology, love language and so on but has chosen a partner who excels at it. Hmmm......

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August 16, 2015 at 9:32 PM delete

My boyfriend is an ISTP and I'm an INFJ. We've been together for seven years and we think we have a life-long commitment. Of course it will depend on each person's personal traits, but I'm sure it's an exciting and deep relationship. It took us a long time until we finally could assume we really were in a relationship. We need our personal space and we've never lived in the same city (it probably would be a problem to other couples, but for us it's ok.
Everyday I learn a lot with his sensing abilities, but he also learns too much with my feelings. In general, the best aspect in this relationship I think is the confidence. Besides, I help him to "organize" his life and plan the future and he teaches me how to live in the present.
I would never marry an extrovert person, I couldn't handle it...

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Anonymous
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August 19, 2015 at 3:04 PM delete

Hi..! I'm an INFJ...married to an ISTP. It has been a year...My hubby loves me a lot..... takes care a lot... of course more of my practical needs.... He is too understanding most of the times....I am happy with him....but not understood
The only prob between us is communication gap... he hates conversations... doesn't understand the need to invest time in the health of our relationship. ...
he is lost in his business thoughts most of the times...
he doesn't know the differance between hearing a talk and understanding the matter presented. ......he really doesn't know.....
sometimes he misunderstands my intention. ..and thinks I am childish.....
what should I do to make communication possible...?

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January 6, 2016 at 10:12 AM delete

Story of my life. ^^^^ and asking thw same question lol

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Anonymous
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October 26, 2016 at 1:16 PM delete

Hello
You said it so well! I'm 8yrs married to a ISTP male and I want the divorce. It's a relationship with everyday something new (draining) and yes very spontaneous. Communication is completely different and difficult. The last 5yrs which I tried to find a solution how we can live together, I always thought that is my fault because of this unhappy marriage, because of planning and my strong intuition which he almost never trust. For me ISTP are makers but without believing in it and bad listeners. I hope my writing is clear, it's not my native language. Kindly Silvia

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Kristina
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December 17, 2016 at 1:12 PM delete

I'm so happy to see other INFJs who are with ISTPs. I'm an INFJ and my husband is an ISTP. We've been married for almost 10 years and we are so happy. It has *not* been easy, but I think we work really well for a lot of reasons:
1) My dad is an ISTP and so I tend to be less serious than may INFJs. I also like spontaneity, within reason. Unless it comes to something I have to bring the kids along, because taking kids anywhere (currently two boys, 4 and 1) is a whole other beast and requires serious planning.
2) We share the same faith and have many common interests. We both have very healthy senses of humor, and honestly I think these are the things that have gotten us through the rough patches.
3) Because of our faith, my husband's fun side is tempered with a strong sense of duty. He is the best father and provider for our home (I currently stay home with the boys--completely my choice, though some days I definitely want to go back to work! lol).
4) 90% of the time, my husband takes absolutely nothing from me emotionally. As an INFJ, I give and give and give, often to the point of draining my reserves, and it's so nice to live with a man who doesn't drain me, and instead helps build my reserves back up. He has his rough patches, but they've been so few and far between over the last 10+ years of our relationship, and during those times I've been in a place where I can help him through those.

Yes, it isn't always easy. The planning thing kills me, though he is a great long-term planner. He also has no natural empathy and has only learned compassion through being married to me. (I have bipolar disorder on top of all this! weee!) In the beginning, his massive needs for alone time were a huge struggle for me, but I learned quickly that his alone time is so, so important and he's much happier when he gets it. Plus, then I get my alone time too. He's totally fine if I take a bath and read every night for a week rather than watching tv with him. And communication has been hard, though we've learned a lot. As an INFJ, I can intuitively tell what people around me need--especially him--and I just assumed in the beginning that he was the same, at least with me. Nope. Not at all. I was a mystery. So I have to communicate with him what I need. I also have that INFJ tendency to retreat into myself, and I can't when it comes to him because he might not even notice! Haha! We seem like such an odd couple, but we work so, so well. My marriage is fun and stable because of my fun and stable ISTP husband, and I couldn't ask for better.

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Kristina
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December 17, 2016 at 1:14 PM delete

One last thing, even though communication is so important, I had to learn *what kind* of communication he wants/needs. He has no interest in talking about our feelings, which is so weird to me as an INFJ because that's like my favorite thing to talk about, lol. So in the beginning there was a lot of me trying to talk about our relationship, and he was like, Ummm no thanks I'm going to work on this project. That is too theoretical for him. Instead, I have to approach it from a concrete point of view: "When I'm feeling xyz, I need you to do abc."

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December 31, 2016 at 11:41 PM delete

You have to explain to him the system of mbti and why you think he's an istp. You can't tell him you have to ask him questions too. So instead of saying because you do this, that means you an s. That's an ineffective approach. No one likes. To be told what they are because that implies your bucketing them or labeling them. And even amongst the same personality type there are so many differences because life experiences adjust. So I would suggest getting MBTI certified and learning the theory. You have to start off by explaining preferences. Ask him what his dominant hand is. Then ask him so does that mean you never use your other hand? And he would say no I use it to but I prefer the dominant hand potentially. Then ask him if he was forced to write with both hands at the same time Would it be productive? He would obviously say no. So personality in this theory is preference based. If I know you prefer to focus on the outcome a.k.a. thinking versus the process a.k.a. feeling, then I would predict that the majority of the time you would typically focus on thinking and that doesn't necessarily mean you're incapable of feeling. That's how this system works. Your personality is based on your behavior based on what your preference of thought is. But you do both at the end of the day.

My bestfriend is an istp and I have never argued with her, many disagreements but they're were respectful. I first told him the difference between I and s to J and P. Then I told him that was only the first part and that was just the baseline. Then I would show him what his functions are. J's extrovert they're judging function and p's extrovert their perceiving function. The judging functions are t and f. Introverts dominant function is the introverted function and extroverts dominant function is extrovert a function. After explaining this show them their function stack. Explain that your dominant function is the opposite of their Achilles heel. Then the secondary/tertiary function are opposites too. And then from there explain the implications of each function being where it's at on the stack.

For example, your dominant function is what you enjoy the most and it is introverted thinking then in theory you would really like systems and processes. As long as you know the process it's easy for you to troubleshoot. Your second function is conscious but not as much as the first one and it is what's called extroverted sensing in theory. This would mean you like to live in the here and now and thinking about ideas and abstract concepts may appear impractical to you. Your tertiary function is conscious but mostly unconscious, you probably feel like you can read people fairly well and that you have a lot of weird got feeling mode minutes more so than other people but it's really hard for you to understand why per se. Sometimes people with a tertiary introverted intuition thinks that things that are obvious to them should be obvious to other people. Theory is only useful if you can see the direct application though and that's why it's mostly subconscious. Your inferior function is completely subconscious and it's called extroverted feeling. You may find that it's hard for you to empathize with others and understand others. That's why you'd be inclined not to believe and then MBTI because it takes a ton of effort to imagine yourself in others shoes. Then I would say tell me your thoughts. What about this description might seem not entirely true? I also remind you that this is generally speaking and each individual has different life experiences that me cause them to have developed or not developed certain functions fully.

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January 1, 2017 at 12:16 AM delete

Hello everyone I'm an infj, but i'm starting to realize that I am extremely unique amongst the infj community.

I was in the military for six years as a medic active duty and was a full time student. I started a Psy.D. last year after getting out of the military two days after obtaining my master's at 24 years old and had one deployment. I got MBTI certified two months ago. I didn't want to go to the military but my dad pretty much forced me in and I'm so thankful that he did. The military caused me to really focus on my weaknesses.


I met at my best friend in the military and she is an ISTP. Me and her have respectful disagreements all the time but we have nevered argued. When we disagree we don't judge each other for not sharing the same opinion because at the end of the day it's just a thought.

Honesty, good intent, and people's character are the main characteristics infjs/istps focus on with those they keep close. honest people are hard to find these days. Honest being telling people what they don't want to hear, even it's it's hard to do.

Because I was in the military I saw how dangerous it is to sugar coat to the point where you're being inauthentic. Istps most of the time do not take anything personal unless they think your intent is to be personal. They're very good at reading people, they don't realize that their ability to read people is due to their intuition. Reading people for them is not emphasizing though. They read people enough to know if someone is trustworthy, if someone is off, or if they think this person who produces risk and that's as far as it typically goes with reading people. Introverted thinking also goes hand-in-hand with being very principle driven. They literally live by a code. They are honest not to be mean but to actually communicate efficiently to others. They fail to realize that some people are sensitive to blunt honesty because they want people to be bluntly honest with them. A lot of times you will noticed when they are being blunt you can tell that they have no malice intent. I think that they think if they adjust their thought to make it more people pleasing it could potentially detract from the truth, which is something that they hate. When people get annoyed with them for being insensitive they can become cynical since they were only being honest to help that person who is getting defensive now. This is why they typically choose jobs that allows them to help people through focusing on a technical service such as mechanics, police force, the military, or similar fields.

So since I'm an INFJ with many n type friends, a doctoral student in psychology, and I spend a lot of time doing n type activities... it causes me to get burnt out with intuition. The reason my istp best friend is my best friend is because I have somebody who respects my differences, respects my introversion, who values honesty and integrity just as much is me, and doesn't judge (Istps are typically not judgmental, they may judge but is short lived and usually not directed to those who are close with them). In addition, I have somebody to balance me out and see from an entirely different perspective that is typically more practical.

Don't get caught up in the Strengths of your intuition, you have to focus on the weaknesses of your intuition in order to compensate for those weaknesses. For example whenever I have that gut feeling on a social concept I started googling research that validates my assumption. Start figuring out why your intuition is correct. If you just stick with the feeling of intuition you're setting yourself up for disaster with an istp. So now when I have intuition gut feeling, I can refer to data and then explain the intuition in their language which is through practicality.


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